I have not bothered to look up PCOS, which you mentioned in your recent TikTok video. Maybe you won't be able to have children.
Gangnam Style.
So, this is significant because in the clip that was probably from last summer, you selected for males who wanted children. If you can't have children, then you are interested in males who would not be interested in being in a relationship with you.
The most recent book that I read, Death at the Crossroads (which I illegally downloaded, and which I first read when it came out ~28 years ago). The author says at the start,
It occurred to me that in fiction about ancient Japan, the people who lived in that farmhouse were often just stage props to some greater pageantry, such as the fight to become the Shogun. Yet they also had stories to tell, and I decided to tell at least some of them through the vehicle of a mystery trilogy.
Excerpt, page 18:
Jiro was not handsome, and his family’s plot of land was far from the biggest, so it was astounding that Yuko’s mother had let it be known that her daughter was available. Yuko was one of the prettiest girls in the small village, although at age fifteen she was a bit past the average age when girls got married. The natural assumption was that Yuko’s mother was waiting for an exceptional match for her daughter, perhaps even hoping that the pretty girl would catch the eye of a lord or samurai so she could become a rich man’s concubine.
The other village women considered Yuko far too clever and far too pretty for Jiro, and said so. But Yuko’s mother had seen kindness and a good heart and a hard worker in the young man, and she knew it would be a match where Yuko would not be abused and, most likely, would be in charge. She wanted that, because of all of her eight children, Yuko was the favorite.
Jiro was presented with the proposition of Yuko as a wife by a small delegation of village women showing up at his hut one morning before he went to his rice paddy to work. The bewildered teen, still smarting from the death of his parents, simply accepted the collective wisdom of the elder women of the village and nodded his agreement. Within a few days, there was a small wedding feast, where the people of the village were fed sake, tofu, and some fish. Yuko served the feast and made sure each of the guests went home with a bit of food wrapped in a broad leaf. After cleaning up, Yuko moved into Jiro’s hut, and they were tentatively considered married, pending the birth of their first child.
I scarcely need to point out that even now, many religions say that 'adult activity' before getting married is bad, and yet most people in developed countries have such experience before they get married. So for most people, there is no need for a 'trial period' in a marriage, and weddings are deliberately conducted in a way that gives them significance and makes cancelling the marriage difficult.
Back in June 2012, I linked the song 嘘とダイヤモンド that I once again referenced in my previous post. I also linked the song, 正義粉砕. These songs both imply a degree of dishonesty, but in the first one the singer is a little bit 'selfish', while in the second the singer is 'good', so they sort of complement each other, I think. Anyway, in the second song (noting that many published translations of Japanese lyrics are inaccurate), the line (at 1:26),
この目は、世界を見過ぎて
僅かな希望も捉えられなくなった
These eyes have seen too much of the world
Even a tiny bit of hope no longer remains (literally: became unable to grasp even a tiny bit of hope)
So, there are a lot of people who literally don't think there's anything wrong with them just focusing all of their attention on what will make them happy in the future, like finding a spouse.
I think I referenced the US Declaration of Independence before, which includes,
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.
If they were really self-evident, there would have been no need to mention them. What makes one person happy may cause harm to other people. There are some people who simply do not realize this. I was going to mention at some point, although I forget exactly what it was in relation to, that games show that many people are simply bad. That the large variation between students in test scores in school is not just from differences in motivation. Test scores often depend on studying, but two people who start a new game, spend the same amount of time playing it, and have the same goal of not dying, will vary in their ability to meet that goal.
In life, one goal that many people (but certainly not all people) have is 'to be seen as ethical, even when the specific behavior that is ethical may be hard to discern, and only a minority of people might correctly judge what it is or reward people who have that behavior'.
And so it is that there are people who might want to have children, but who do not allow whether a particular person can have children to be important to whether they would be in a relationship with that person.
One might point to same-sex relationships as the ultimate proof of this.
Going back to one of my recent posts: the one about when I tried to meet Mei at the library. Did I try to trick Mei? It's certainly true that there was information which I did not make clear. I said in an email that I would be turning off my Internet (I gave the cable modem and maybe one or two wireless routers to the Korean student who had relied on it, who got a little upset at me since it meant she had to go to the school library for Internet), which implied I was leaving my residence, but I was deliberately ambiguous and Mei's later words showed she did not understand I had already permanently left where I had been living.
But did I "trick Mei into not agreeing to meet me, in order to benefit Kate"? One thing I said to Mei, regarding her not wanting to meet, was that she just didn't want me to die. I really felt it was possible that if we met, it would lead to me dying. Mei facilitated me implying this with like her references to Drow (a female-dominated society, in which males are weak, and the deity is a spider). I'm pretty sure her display name, Lillium, was a reference to Elfen Lied (which I never saw), and not to Lilium, "a taxonomic genus within the family Liliaceae – true lilies" which is poisonous to cats — her cat being named after me.
So, if Mei and I had met, and then I had died, I think it would have helped Kate. Kate would have thought I was in a relationship, since she would not have had any expectation that I would contact her again if I was alive.
When I asked, "Am I someone who would take an action most likely to lead to someone being happy, even if I died", the person that it seemed my actions would most likely lead to being happy was therefore Kate, not Mei.
And I think this is how it is a lot of the time. Evidence, songs:
Rain Song by Girls Dead Monster,
(Translated) Running into a tree in the park,
I cried like you did.
Forgetting that you were here,
Forgetting the love that we had,
Becoming just like you were (misheard lyrics) Crying in place of you,
I don't want that.
Numb by Linkin Park,
And I know I may end up failing, too
But I know you were just like me
With someone disappointed in you
So anyway. Maybe it would be nice if people who wanted children did not end up with people who cannot have children. But that is not even on the list of most important problems, on which climate change apparently ranks so low that it no longer appears on the list.
(The letters) W, T, F. (And also, that video with 8.7m views doesn't appear in search, only some copies with 12k, 32k, and 235 views.)
It's Peyton Chorvat's birthday in two days. I would think that she streams every day, except that my Gmail tab which accumulates Twitch live notifications from her only has 35 new messages and the number does not seem to have been going up. Maybe five years ago, she posted on Chirp Club that she was seeing a doctor for her endometriosis, which just like PCOS can be a cause of infertility. I should note that I don't know if Peyton likes me. If she's streaming, it's probably retail aka mainline WoW, which I think I will find painful to watch.
@TEAM_OK 지수 - 꽃 ｜ 남의 팔💪[Someone else's arm - 이소정 sojung, igo gattan da] [SJu9tGkRS-0].webm
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Update 09 Feb 2026, 03:12
From your TikTok video, "There's such a pressure on women. I feel like we're constantly told and conditioned to think that our greatest value is bringing life into this world."
This is what I had wanted to mention some people being bad at games, and specifically bad at PvP, in relation to. If you say, "a lot of females don't like fighting in general, as much as males do", this supports the point. Females are less often the target of physical violence in general, but are just as likely to encounter social conflict in the form of words of criticism. An attitude that fighting (including with words) should be avoided is likely to lead to less time spent fighting, which means lower proficiency at it, and more often losing fights or never trying to fight in the first place. I don't necessarily agree with the message of this video or how people in the comments interpret it, but people think it was a good video: Learned Helplessness
Point: only females can do X.
(Ok, haha, X chromosomes.) Is there a Y that only males can do? Probably not, for any Y that people admit to be important. Females tend to be physically weaker, but this doesn't really matter in the modern world. The rigorous physical fitness standards used in military special forces around the world are not really important for winning wars. I don't think I ever watched the entire movie, and it draws people towards incorrect conclusions (the whole, "the US public likes fights in the Middle East because it's open deserts with nowhere to hide, unlike the jungles of Vietnam where a technological advantage didn't mean as much"), but the film Jarhead: "At the last second before Swofford takes the shot, Major Lincoln interrupts them to call in an air strike. . . . The war ends without Swofford ever firing his rifle. During a monologue, Swofford realizes that all of his training and effort to achieve the elite status as a marine sniper is meaningless in modern warfare."
So, if X is important and only females can do X, how should this affect how people think of females?
Possibility: "females should focus on doing X, even if it means sometimes giving up on other goals."
Possibility: "people should think more highly of females and treat them better, because they can do something that males can't."
The scene in Terminator: Dark Fate (2019) where Sarah Connor sarcastically comments that Dani Ramos is only important because of her womb, as Sarah herself had only been targeted for termination because of her future son.
Basically, do females benefit when the fact that only females can conceive children is brought up in a conversation?
Quote from the BBC comedy Red Dwarf, which I have not attempted to verify as factual:
Lister: I don't know why I'm going through with this. It's just not possible.
Rimmer: Why is it not possible? Male baboons have given birth. They were doing that as far back as the 20th century. Caesarian, naturally.
