I like not having to think of titles. I don't like some numbers as much as other numbers, just like how I used to obsessive-compulsively pay attention to whether I stepped on sidewalk cracks or basically the ratio between steps and sidewalk intervals, and even a few days ago I accidentally brushed a flipflop against an ankle while walking and obsessive-compulsively deliberately brushed against the other ankle to provide a balanced sensation.
Symmetry. Also, my bottom teeth are slightly offset to one side from my top teeth.
(Test of too much information)
A bunch of videos. I only watched the first once, and half of the fourth one, about "Valentine's Singles Events":
WoW’s Success Set an Impossible Standard for MMOs - YouTube
WoW community hates how I play WoW - YouTube
"I hope you get what you asked for and nothing you wanted" - YouTube
Men REFUSE To Attend Valentine's Singles Events - It Was 90% Women and Women Are FURIOUS - YouTube
You care about too many things - YouTube
Men Say “No” To Single Moms & Women Instantly LOSE IT | The Wall - YouTube
Why Sharing Your Feelings Can Kill Your Relationship - YouTube
Why Nobody Wants to Hear You Over Explain - YouTube
Because you have talked about this topic before.
I included the WoW-related videos because the second one is about people disliking questing addons, based on the first minute or two of the transcript and the comments. He says that YouTube comments are very critical of this. Basically, I think people criticize the use of these because they want to help him — they wouldn't bother to spend the time commenting otherwise, just like there are millions of videos with no comments. (It's kind of crazy how low the comment ratio is for many videos, compared to the number of likes.)
And I think commenters on the other videos also want to help other people, in this case other viewers who are interested in the topic of the video. That makes their comments useful.
What I got from the comments of the fourth video, the one I've watched halfway, was a little different from what was actually in the video: the person who said that males expected most attendees to be males, and used that in their explanations for not going. People in the comments don't talk about this. There are comments like these:
Events like that were humiliating enough for me as a young man (when I was stupid enough to try them) but, as an old(er) guy? - not a chance on God's green earth.
As soon as a woman pegs you as a man looking for a woman, you're screwed anyways. It's like looking for a job when you don't already have one. It's assumed that you are undesirable. They think "why doesn't he know any women who want to date him already?" And if you get anywhere with her she will see you as a stepping stone guy who none of the other girls wanted.
I do think the unbalanced attendee gender ratio is a problem, if it's common. (Honestly the only knowledge I had about these events before was a few movies like Hitch (2005), which shows a matchmaking event with a balanced gender ratio.)
But it seems like for a lot of people, "being in a relationship" is just not attractive enough as an option, and so they don't even try. Note that this is different from the other reason people often use to explain why they're not in a relationship, that it's too expensive. People making a choice that makes them more happy is not as big of a problem as people choosing something that makes them less happy due to a lack of information. Ultimately, I would rate this problem, of the events being 90% females, as something that can be put off until humans are on a sustainable path regarding maintaining civilization.
(I am aware of the possible irony of linking videos about games, many of which have a mostly male playerbase, along with videos about males not being interested in forming relationships. At least I can say that I haven't played World of Warcraft or any other MMO in over 15 years.)
So, that's why I'm not treating this as a problem by trying to change it, just writing to you about it. I don't like to acknowledge gender differences as it can lead to conflict, but I think it is necessary to understand it. Like this comment:
Men going to a single event is like a cow taking itself to market.
Why do people only say this applies to the males? It would seem that it's because people think that females benefit from being in a relationship more than males benefit.
I can only make observations like this, based off of what other people say, since I have essentially zero experience myself.
Well, this comment made me think of the song you mentioned on stream, like 'stand by your man' or something:
A man needs to know his woman is loyal. I’m not talking about cheating. It’s the knowledge that she supports him. Has his back. Lose his trust, lose him forever.
By carelessly pasting YouTube comments without using Shift, I caused this post to have this at the end in the code and I can't get rid of it:
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Unnecessary text! Bad!
Summary: there is a problem and I am trying to do nothing about it. Does this make me a bad person?
I would like to say things about the first video, the only one I watched, but for unexplained reasons I am still trying to say nothing to anyone else (with moderate success) and I don't think you care, and so I will just forget whatever I wanted to say. Raging cow boss.
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