Monday, September 21, 2026

Game for dating sites

It's amazing how many opinions I have on people forming relationships, for someone who has never dated.

There is the comment I left as a reply to someone on YouTube, 'comment on males becoming mean, 19 Sep 2026.txt', and my reply to their reply. And there's the poll I suggested to Imane in an email about a week ago, which is relevant to the reply I left on YouTube.

I'm not copying those because the purpose of this post is basically, "what if I die of a heart attack tomorrow". Then, even if I had saved the text I just wrote to an (unencrypted) external SSD in case of my hard drive crashing, it would be lost. So that information is already on the Internet; this is not.

Some people might say, we don't need the world to have more people in relationships, because population growth is a problem. I just think of people being unhappy as inefficient. The question from the post Paris, what if all bullets fired in war were lethal? If I could cause that outcome to happen, I would, just to save bullets. (Well, also so people wouldn't have stupid arguments about whether people in war want to kill each other, or whether most of them are firing over the heads of their enemies.)

This is the game:

game for dating sites. Judging someone: doesn't work if there's just one answer that everyone can copy. General solution, making the test hard: education, or 'taking a good photo of yourself'. But depends on good, hard metrics existing. The other general solution: making the test vary. Person 1 (P1): Presents three photos of other people. Person 2 (P2): says whether they think each of these people is more or less attractive than P2. P1: says whether they believe P2.

Iteration: not just a test of appearance. Each photo also has fictional information. P1 can choose from several categories: occupation. Personal details that were beyond their control: "tragic backstory", "has many relatives", "war refugee", "only child", "grew up far from any big city". Degree of romantic experience: high, medium, low. Number of countries they have been to. Up to two categories can be selected for each photo.

If P1's game is to guess whether P2 has lied, then it must be explicitly ok for P2 to lie. P2 selects both true answer, and cover answer. They can differ or be the same. For each guess by P1 of whether P2 was lying, either P1 gets a point or P2 gets a point. Even if P2 lies about whether they lied, P1 can guess this and still get a point.

P1 controls the photos: they can choose photos where the answer is obvious, or try to choose photos where the answer is hard to guess.

Users could choose to allow their own photos to be used for the game by other people. It's made explicit that the populations of male and female are considered to have equal average attractiveness, with a quick graphical introduction to the game. So a player cannot just say, "everyone of the opposite gender is more attractive than me, by definition".


One reason not to post this was additional details that are not relevant to someone who chooses to implement this game.

After I did something I will not provide additional details about at this time, my browser had the display bug. That meant closing my browser, and if I wanted to reopen it, that would be a separate action. Instead, I synced some videos.

I hesitate to say any of this because the government conspiracy is acting a little crazy.

So, point: I'm arrogant enough to say that I think I'm smarter than most people. This is why I left a YouTube comment on people having relationship problems, when I haven't really had the opportunity to ever have relationship problems. (Since my only relationship was with Mei, and we never exchanged photos or talked on the phone, and if Mei saw me in real life while I was living outside in 2012, I'm unaware of it.)

But I would freely say that in the biased sample of videos which I'm exposed to, most people featured in them are more attractive than me. For example, in a video I recently linked, the camera pans away from the stage and the audience is visible. Maybe I could be more attractive than some members of the audience, but I think almost all members of the audience would say that the dancers on the stage were more attractive than the audience member being asked, and I would say this too.

That's also the case in this video, which I felt I had to upload because of the edit at 1:37:

Ttesports Show Girl@2011 TGS台北國際電玩展

Other performances are still on YouTube, like this one:

11.02.20-2011台北國際電玩展Tt舞者開場舞part3.MP4

This one has audio muted on YouTube. Uploaded with original audio and higher video bitrate from when YouTube thought it was a 1440p video, not a 720p video.

Dancer who is on the left and closest to the camera at the start of these three videos is 小姿, full name 黃姿菱 (1, 2). She is definitely more attractive than me. By not mentioning the other dancers I leave open the possibility that I match their level of attractiveness without lying.

In US culture, it's understood that males will often judge the looks of females on a 1-to-10 scale. This is often thought to be a way of insulting females, but here is a comedy skit with a different take.

If this game was to for P1 to ask P2 if the people in the photos were more attractive than P1, it would be bad.

Some people think you should always be honest, even when someone asks "does this clothing make me look fat". Others believe that it's ok to lie to benefit someone else. Anyway, I think this game works. It involves people making judgements based on information they should have good knowledge of: their own appearance. Instead of judgements based on the very basic information they have about someone else's appearance, that on a dating site comes from carefully selected photos etc.


Hopefully that's all that I wanted to say to explain this game before I got distracted and spent nearly two hours looking up videos. (Also, I got the vp9 bug while watching a video.) I was going to say that I thought of it because I was evaluating a video. These people are both more attractive than me:

@gioalbertsec Onda da Balinha (Remix) - Remix - Natralhinha [7136231465607646470][a +0.12s].mp4

@gioalbertoficial Onda da Balinha (Remix) - Remix - Natralhinha [7135822350896942341][a +0.12s].mp4

@diveludo Onda da Balinha (Remix) - Remix - Natralhinha [7136250843199819013][a +0.14s].mp4

But that doesn't make them special, because there are a lot of people who are more attractive than me.

I looked at the first video, and then checked for other videos with the same song because I recognized it. I don't think it's @gioalbertoficial's best videos; I think these ones make her look better: 7153703345285254406 (sync), 7153700589061344518. I actually made a note to myself to check the comments on the first one, if people ever use this idea and I can use the Internet freely without causing unintended consequences.

But no matter how good a real person looks, it's never going to be what a human brain natively thinks of as ideal. (Whereas with repeated exposure, a non-ideal thing can end up being seen as ideal: who thinks about whether the QWERTY keyboard is bad?) In the past, humans could create images that looked better than a real human; now, AI can do so easily.

There are many videos and discussions about how images of attractive people warp our expectations. Even if someone knows that "real people don't look like that", they can't be sure how 'real' a particular photo is. To fall back to the 'ratings system', if someone looks like a 7/10 in a photo, are they a 7/10 in real life or a 4/10? (To put it another way: maybe most people who look like 7/10 are really 4/10, but what if someone is actually 7/10 because they didn't bother to do the things that would make them look 9/10?)

People can end up assuming that other people are lying about or inflating their value, so their interactions — like on a dating site — could be about trying to detect the lie, instead of the conversation that would take place if both parties knew that the other wasn't lying.

Suppose that in the game, P2 wants to convince P1 that P2 is attractive. Do they do so by saying that the people shown in photos are less attractive than P2, or by saying that those people are more attractive?

Thursday, September 17, 2026

Paris

17 Sep 2026
"A superintelligent AI makes it so that any lethal weapon used in war will only operate if it will kill someone: no misses or wounding shots. Artillery and small arms are both affected. Only one attempt to fire per second is allowed, to prevent trigger spamming. Does this fundamentally change how people think of war, or just save bullets?"

film Outbreak or Contagion: in middle, maybe shortly before bodies are burned in a building, screen that says "7xx personnel infected, 3xx personnel died". Military deaths. Not talked about to avoid making US military seem selfish for wanting to avoid military deaths; rather, important thing is civilian deaths.


I would prefer to just say #PrayForMH370 a bunch of times than talk about people dying.

Truth is not always easy to see. After the Aurora movie theater shooting in 2012, some news reports said that James Holmes asked a guard how the movie ended. News reports also said that a mask was placed over his face because he was spitting at people. But were either of these things true? (One thing that was true, that many people might have forgotten, was that he left a remote control, like the type used for toy cars, outside of his apartment building, which would have triggered the explosives inside of his apartment. The only reason for doing this, instead of a timer, is to test whether anyone would accidentally trigger it.)

UK authorities had limited information about whether the person who bombed Ariana Grande's concert had much coordination with people outside of the country. It could be just like one person acting on their own to accidentally start World War I, or something else I was recently reading about:

(Folder 'Hot Q Girls etc., 12 Sep 2026':

20151203艋舺青山宮靈安尊王千秋-19-Hot Q Girls - YouTube

20151203 杰德企業&臺北葫蘆堵威武獅 恭迎 艋舺青山宮靈安尊王遶境 Hot Q Girls (函`彤`糖`奈`鳥) 12 - YouTube

20151203艋舺青山宮靈安尊王千秋-20-Hot Q Girls - YouTube

20151203 杰德企業&臺北葫蘆堵威武獅 恭迎 艋舺青山宮靈安尊王遶境 Hot Q Girls (函`彤`糖`奈`鳥) 14 - YouTube

105 6~9 淡水大拜拜暗訪#福靈宮#天使噗噗≈卉 菲 棠≈ 癡情玫瑰花 - YouTube

105 五股六福里福德宮€天使噗噗€惡魔舞團#范璇 瑀心 寶兒 - YouTube 

and five unrelated, non-video bookmarks)

(72 bookmarks that aren't in a folder, all of them videos from YouTube or Douyin except for AoE2 Battle Simulator — Who wins? Every unit, every civ, fully upgraded which doesn't work with my old browser, and Gaming - YouTube which is on YouTube but not a video)

Folder 'responsibility, 15 Sep 2026':

person who personally killed the highest number of other humans? - Search

What Person Has Murdered the Most People Directly By Their Own Hand, And Who Has Saved the Most Lives?

Vasily Blokhin - Wikipedia

Mikhail Tukhachevsky - Wikipedia 

Folder 'failure of being nice, 15 Sep 2026':

many trials during Stalin's Great Purge resulted in a verdict of innocence? - Search (*how many)

Great Terror: 1937, Stalin & Russia | HISTORY

Sergei Kirov - Wikipedia

The last article mentions the Reichstag fire, in 1933. Sometimes a single person does something, and other people find it hard to believe they could have done it all alone. It also happened with https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Georg_Elser#Interrogation_report.

I don't think the person who bombed Ariana Grande's concert acted alone, but because the UK authorities have no evidence of coordination, I as a member of the public know nothing either. So I could be wrong.

But I felt it was significant that the bombing took place after the concert was over. To me that meant, they weren't trying to harm Ariana Grande. They were just trying to harm her fans. They weren't suggesting that it was bad to be a celebrity; after all, is it bad to perform music in front of 20 people in a small commercial establishment? Should an artist be blamed for being popular?

Most bombings are meant to kill people. Suicide bombings are definitely meant to kill the person carrying them out. But, an important comparison: the IS's attacks on Paris.

Many people were probably completely oblivious to the significance of the IS's message about these attacks. Sometimes, when a violent group does something, it doesn't admit responsibility. If I search for "iraq bombing shrine", I find . . .

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2006_al-Askari_mosque_bombing : "there were no casualties . . . Although responsibility for the 2006 al-Askari bombing was not claimed by any party, the incident was followed by bouts of retaliatory violence among Iraqis, with over 100 dead bodies being found the next day and well over 1,000 deaths occurring over the course of a few days after the attack; some counts place the death toll at over 1,000 on the first day alone."

Also on first page of results,

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muhammad_ibn_Ali_al-Hadi_Mausoleum_attack "The Islamic State carried out the attack, and claimed they killed over 100 people, which came shortly after a series of bomb attacks in Baghdad committed by IS that targeted Shias, killing at least 341 people and injuring over 246."

Search for "iraq recruitment center bombing":

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2005_Al_Hillah_bombing "The bombing caused a worsening of Iraqi-Jordanian diplomatic relations after it was learned that suicide bomber, Raed Mansour al-Banna, had come from Jordan. Banna's family in Jordan gave him a heroic funeral, angering many Iraqi Shia. Thousands protested outside the Jordanian embassy in Baghdad and demanded it close."

Anyway, many bombings that result in high civilian casualties are not claimed by anyone. This is in contrast with groups announcing, and exaggerating, their attacks on military targets (soldiers).

Note that militaries of UN member states sometimes do something similar: saying that a bomb dropped by an airplane killed 100 militants, when it really killed 100 people at a wedding.

So anyway, when the IS attacked Paris, they released their announcement IN FRENCH and listed the arrondissements they attacked.

This was subtly praising France, which at that time was bombing the IS with warplanes. By listing the arrondissements they attacked, they were informing their audience of which arrondissements they had not attacked, due to having limited capability for operations.

Was the purpose of the attack on Paris really to harm France? Or was it to help France? Same with the bombing of Ariana Grande's concert.

Email:

Date: Apr 5, 2026, 10:31 PM

Subject: Lol I'm emailing you a comment I left on your video

Your video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJjURt0cLPU
Cheating Is the Plot (And We’re Supposed to Clap?)

My comments:


Ok, but what about The Sound of Music (1965)? 6th highest grossing film of all time adjusted for inflation.

I probably haven't seen most of the films that are mentioned here. I don't know how many would match the technical definition of cheating. In The Sound of Music, it's not cheating because the female character does not intend to cause anything to happen while she believes the male character is going to get married. The female rival also takes the blame by stopping the male character from speaking and saying that she is responsible for not wanting to get married to him, as he isn't good enough for her.

A story with actual cheating inside a committed relationship deserves criticism. But often, interest in one character by another way is just a way to establish that the character is valued. Very few attractive people are not already in a relationship, or don't have someone they know who is interested in them. A romantic story is about the connection that is established between two people who usually did not know each other before, and almost by necessity, for realism, it has to start when there are already weak emotional attachments to other people, which are ended in the course of the story.


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"The fantasy of being chosen. . . It makes sense why this trope shows up constantly in movies aimed towards women" (23:55) The Notebook, which you say at 8:49 inspired you to make this video: the cheating doesn't show that the female lead is being chosen. She's doing the choosing. I think the explanation is different: females are expected to be more passive. The male is expected to propose marriage, not the female. So I think these movies are showing female agency. In The Notebook: she's engaged, and her fiancé says he loves her, but does he still love anyone else? Does he only say "it's normal not to forget your first love" because HE has not forgotten HIS first love, and it isn't her? Did he propose because he would have written letters for a year etc. etc., or just because he knew that she would not propose to him because males are expected to, and he didn't want her to be alone?

What if the wrong person proposes to you? You can refuse, but sometimes someone might say yes when they're not absolutely sure it's what they want. These stories are about a chance for one's life to change, even if one said the wrong word when a choice was given to say one of two words. If saying "yes" is too scary, then almost no one would say "yes", and the marriage rate is already low enough.

"They tell us that if he doesn't dangle off a Ferris wheel for you, then it's not true love." (24:44) No more than they also tell us that if you don't have perfect makeup the moment you wake up from sleeping, that you're not worth attention from someone who would do that!

Art is an exaggeration of people's hopes and desires. Most audiences can understand that. The few who can't: well, that's why perfect makeup when waking up is a thing.

"The word loyal" Video description: "Why is the stable partner always boring? Why is the toxic ex always the soulmate?"

Why are movies filled with explosions and gun battles, when I have never seen an explosion in real life (*other than fireworks), even though I went to Iraq for a year and threw a live grenade in basic training? Part of the answer is that people to use movies to justify risky actions: if those actions were not risky, people would have already taken that action. The toxic ex is an ex because they were toxic; if they were an uncontroversial ex, there would have been no conflict in the decision to break up with them. But there's also a cultural bias: the US has a culture where people often suspect that what would be more rewarding is to act in a more selfish way, if only the opportunity presented itself. On top of that, people think that other people are already making the selfish choice, and so what society needs is more people who will not forgive selfish people. Vigilante justice-type storylines. This probably varies by generation: after WWII, people mostly had enough of violence, at least for a few years. People saw how it could lead to an escalation. But now, with the culture that people are immersed in (short-form videos etc.) being tailored to make them feel reasonably content and in the mood for small improvements like an advertised brand? It's easy to ignore the real-world evidence of consequences of deliberately retaliating, and so selfishness in stories is back in demand, as a way to explore its consequences.


Second email:

Date: May 4, 2026, 8:53 PM

Subject: An explanation, and a solution

Not a business email.

About the issues talked about in your video, "Women Are Getting SMALLER (And It’s Not Just Their Bodies)..."

You don't just tell the viewer about your observations of what people are doing. You also give your opinion or judgement.

Consider the following question. I described this question before to someone else, who has 5~10 million followers on each of her accounts; a reasonable person would say it's unlikely she read my email. "You have to pick one gender to be treated worse. Which gender do you choose?"

How do you think people would answer this question, when they have to answer without seeing what other people have answered? What would you wish the outcome to be: around 50% split between male and female, or for most people to pick a certain gender (like the choice that you would select for this question)?

I have not made this as a poll myself and am not aware of anyone who has. But many attitudes could be explained if most people would pick males to be treated worse.

Suppose people have the attitude, "we want females to be treated better." One way to get people to treat females better than they are already treated, is to believe and act like females are currently treated worse. That what males have, when males have something that females don't, is better than what females have.

In your discussion of "traditional wife" videos, you suggest that there is a power imbalance. Clearly, you are suggesting that the male who is earning money has more power: that what the male has is better than what the female has.

You also say that the person who is not earning money is "vulnerable". Later, regarding "stay-at-home girlfriends", you suggest that the vulnerability is to the possibility of the male cheating or leaving the female, in which case without a marriage contract she would end up with nothing.

What about the possibility of the person who earns money dying? This would also leave the remaining parent in a vulnerable position. Would you say that this vulnerability is successfully mitigated with life insurance?

If you don't consider this to be a significant vulnerability, then it suggests that you are using "vulnerable", regarding the "traditional wife" trend, to really mean "lower status": a subjective, sort of, term, in that people could collectively change what they see as low or high status.

Note that the logic defining "vulnerability" implies "vulnerability" if one partner derives any financial benefit from the other. If a "traditional wife" has X vulnerability to the possibility of her husband dying without life insurance, then a wife in a two-income household still has vulnerability of X/2, assuming that the male's income pays half of the rent and so on.

The "stay-at-home girlriend": if the boyfriend doesn't earn enough money to accumulate significant savings, a separation would seem to leave both in a similar financial position. Why do we say the girlfriend is vulnerable? Because we see that getting a job is hard, even for many people who were recently studying or working, so it's even harder for a "stay-at-home girlfriend" who suddenly needs to earn money.

So if someone who suddenly needs to find a job is "vulnerable", and the way to avoid this "vulnerability" is to have a career even if the money isn't important at a particular moment, then it's really some kind of moral dilemma in which people are rewarded for looking after their own interests, even if it harms the group. And the best way to help the people who are "vulnerable" is not to say "just focus on your career". It's to create more jobs, so that someone who was previously a "stay-at-home girlfriend" or boyfriend can transition to supporting themselves without much difficulty, if the need arises.

The explanation of the poll I suggested above, "which gender would you pick to be treated worse", is a bit complicated. I'll just say that if you are fundamentally ok with the possibility that most people would answer that they would pick males to be treated worse, which explains things like people joking they are "just a girl", then you can feel comfortable with ignoring this email.

If you think the outcome of the poll should be balanced, then here is how to create a lot of jobs: https://i.imgur.com/ia2s7AM.png

(The subject this email says "and a solution", so I felt I had to include that. I think it would result in a more balanced outcome for that poll, making something that you might want to share if you would prefer the balanced outcome, and something you might not want to share if you would prefer that a certain gender be heavily selected in the poll.)


Rather less important, about Tiktok:

"Human" I have a shorter attention span and skipped to the end to get the keyword. I've never had a smartphone and so don't know much about Vine or early Tiktok, but going off of what you said: it became mainstream when the content became easy, instead of being original. What if most people, like 90%, can't be original? Would they prefer a platform where they can't succeed, because they aren't original, or one where unoriginal people can still succeed?

We can imagine two platforms: one for the 90% of people who are unoriginal, and one for the 10% who are original. The most-followed accounts on the unoriginal platform would have 9x the followers, and 9x the cultural influence (or more, due to networking effects) as on the original platform, and the unoriginal platform would also be at least 9x more profitable, or more if unoriginal people are easier to influence with ads.

In this thought experiment, if you're unwilling to use the original platform simply because the unoriginal platform is bigger, then your real concern, that prevents you from just doing what you want to do, is that society does not value originality.

This isn't the same as not valuing difficulty. Even when people are just copying dance moves (and there are still original dances, reason for the 'DC' dance credit tag that most people don't use because they don't even know who made the original dance), it's hard to 'win the trend'.

Copying is a popular strategy in general. All life is based on copying of DNA etc, and cells copying themselves to make new cells. It's hard to argue that copying is bad. The bad effects from not valuing originality are more about the consequences of most people trying to make new things. Life is based on copying, but when there's too much copying, we get monocultures, or cloned bananas that are vulnerable to a single type of fungus, or like (Tasmanian) Devil facial tumour disease.

Or to generalize: when people think the answer is always just to copy, we get fewer solutions, and there are still plenty of problems that need solutions.

Long comment is long.


I left a comment on a third video, which I think I copied to a previous post.

In my post on the 'pro-eating disorder' community on Reddit (which was probably created because 'pro-anorexia' was banned, and 'eating disorder' includes both eating too much food and eating too little food), or rather in a reply to a comment on the post, I suggested that eating disorders can happen because a boyfriend becomes distant when he sees that his girlfriend spends her time talking about fashion and celebrities instead of problems like war. (Like, the lack of interest could be interpreted as "he thinks I'm physically ugly".)

In this explanation, the eating disorder would not develop if the boyfriend just accepted that "females are not interested in war-related topics, and this is fine". Note for example,

https://www.cnn.com/2012/08/29/opinion/ghitis-sex-strikes

https://www.npr.org/2011/10/07/141159283/battles-against-oppressive-regimes-led-to-nobel

https://www.inclusivesecurity.org/2012/07/31/how-liberian-women-organized-a-sex-strike-and-helped-end-a-war/

https://blogs.sussex.ac.uk/global/2024/08/22/the-liberian-sex-strike-a-double-edged-sword-for-peace-and-empowerment/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women_of_Liberia_Mass_Action_for_Peace


I tried to get males to share this idea. I posted on a forum for 'involuntarily celibate' ("incel") males.

The problem is really that males do tend to experience better outcomes with higher performance. This idea, and the problems it would solve, has a certain complexity. The process of living is not inherently complex, but we allow it to be so.

You can segment the world into "people who would prefer to have a job that helps other people, even if they currently do not". Or you can segment it into, "people who would prefer to be earning more money than the average person, even if they currently do not". Maybe in the first view, 55% of people are 'good'. In the second one, 45% of people are 'good'. It might seem like a small change, but sometimes being in the majority is the difference between victory and total defeat.


New approach: is there any country where people see most other countries as having a positive influence on the world? Like with the question in these polls, which I'm lazy so just uploading instead of finding the source, as well as some other documents:

 ls -tgo ~/"stolen & temp/reading"|tail -30

-rw-rw-r-- 1 5201027 Aug 30  2014 2014 bbc country-rating-poll.pdf
[...]
-rw-rw-r-- 1 2822452 Feb 14  2014 [Small Wars Manual] Fortitudine Vol 35 No 1.pdf
[...]
-rw-rw-r-- 1  369580 Mar  7  2013 cultureThought.pdf
-rw-rw-r-- 1 3988751 Mar  6  2013 2012_bbc_country rating final 080512.pdf
-rw-rw-r-- 1 2049022 Feb  8  2013 PsychofIntelNew.pdf
-rw-rw-r-- 1 1630790 Nov 30  2012 Rethinking_Consumption_Consumers_and_the_Future_of_Sustainability_The_Regeneration_Roadmap.pdf
-rw-rw-r-- 1  694127 Nov 24  2012 Mate poaching - 3184.pdf
-rw-rw-r-- 1  401400 May 23  2012 wp914.pdf
-rw-rw-r-- 1 3232770 May 18  2012 TT_ICC_2012_Report_Interactive_PDF_jg-Hw.pdf
-rw-rw-r-- 1   98686 May 18  2012 feardie.pdf
-rw-rw-r-- 1  143151 May 18  2012 deceive.pdf
-rw-rw-r-- 1  431180 May 18  2012 BriefingPaper292.pdf

(If 'ls' had an option not to show file permissions, I would use it in cases like this; the compound command I use based on 'find' just shows size and date, but I hadn't really intended to list all files, just link the country polls.)

Some countries are viewed positively by almost every other country. But probably, all countries view some others positively and others negatively. Well, it makes sense, right? Is there any country where people would say the world has no problems? If there are problems, it makes sense to assign blame. A few countries blame themselves, but no one is arrogant enough to say their country is solely responsible for all problems in the world.

So, even if the objective is just "improve people's quality of life and happiness by 5%", if the goal is not met, then someone must be blamed. Most likely, people will just end up saying that about half of all people support the goal and half oppose it. But is it exactly half, or slightly more, or slightly less?


If males think the proportion of people who truly care about fixing problems is slightly less than half, are they dumb? Or, more precisely, if males who — due to their age and financial position — are themselves interested in trying to fix problems think this, are they dumb?


The video titled, "Women Are Getting SMALLER (And It’s Not Just Their Bodies)..." (after A/B testing optimized the title) talked about Ariana Grande appearing dangerously thin. Talking about males was just a way to avoid saying this, because I'm not sure what to say about it. When I mentioned seeing a preview scene for Wicked: For Good (2025), I purposely avoided referring to Ariana Grande as an actor in the film and just referenced the character she portrays.

Do people with anorexia (anorexia nervosa) want to die? Did the Islamic State's bombing of Ariana Grande's concert kill anyone who had anorexia and wanted to die?

I already used the post title, "Villains by Necessity", on 24 Jun 2012. I read this book once, probably less than a year or two after it was written (so my age when I read it can be inferred). I chose to read it almost entirely based off of its cover: it appeared in a list of other books, maybe in something like Dragon Magazine or Discover Magazine. Again, I think it's significant that it was written by a female author, who went on to write only one other book; I hope she is doing well and has a good life, even if it did not involve writing more books. (Note how platforms like YouTube are heavily reliant on consistent content generation for creators to reach a wide audience.)

 

Finding a title means the post is done. Communication: if someone doesn't know you exist, you can't lie to them. If you they know you exist, and you don't communicate with them, you can't lie to them. If someone won't talk to me, it makes sense for me not try to communicate with them. Discworld: the novel Lords and Ladies, the character Archchancellor Mustrum Ridcully sent letters to the character Esmerelda Weatherwax when they were young. She never replied, and eventually he stopped sending letters. Did he stop because he no longer cared about her? The lack of communication created this ambiguity. Until they met in the course of the events shown in that novel, she might not have known the answer to this question.

This is why I continued to send emails to Mei when she was in Japan, even after it was clear she was not going to reply, and why I am not currently trying to communicate with anyone who isn't talking to me, no matter who they are and how much influence they might have.

No one talked to me

14 Sep 2026 05:49:59 GMT:

I think that after Sherine shared a link to this site in 2013, if I had not said anything to her, she would have been unhappy but would eventually have done more with this idea. I think the only way for me not to say anything to her would be for me to be dead.

I prioritized Sherine being happy over people using this idea.

This is the thought I had after various thoughts about people not sharing this idea. For example: "a story that involves waiting": there is a button you can push. However, after waiting for a while, the button becomes inaccessible (COVID-19 pandemic). You have to wait before you regain the option of pushing the button, but the waiting period isn't really important.

Didn't seem more important than the topics in the previous post.


After Demi Rose, I was supposed to say that I was waiting for Park Geun-hye to share this idea.

Like I said to my friend Hanna, who may or may not have believed me, I felt that many important people learned of this idea. When Queen Elizabeth visited a German concentration camp or something for the first time in ~2014, I guessed that it was because she knew of this idea and so was able to say, 'the Germans who did this were not evil'. (Also, 'the prisoners who killed guards were not evil'.)

I think Ariana Grande knows of this idea. And I was going to say that some other people who I think might know of it are Lady Gaga and Eminem. Lady Gaga because she stopped using Chirp Club after her friend filed a lawsuit, and maybe Sherine commented on it and so I did as well, and Lady Gaga later did a tour in Australia where she performed with Hatsune Miku. Eminem because Sherine liked his songs, and he later said something about how he really appreciated his mum or something. And, the members of One Direction might have learned of this idea, including the one who is now dead.

These are really just guesses. I think I might have sent a message directed to Ariana Grande on Chirp Club. The reason I mention anyone else is that for me to say that someone knows about this idea could be dangerous for that person.

I hope this was obvious. I could not just say, "I think person X knows about this idea, and I think they should share it."

I feel like one of the more important questions in the previous post was the poll about helping another group, and helping a group member. Deliberately meant to make it hard to answer the question, "is someone who answers this way evil?" Had even considered making the second question, "You can choose to sacrifice X of the group's pool to reduce someone's debt by 1/2*X", but it does not makes sense for this to be a real option and I think most people would just pick it, as the 'nice' thing to do with almost no personal cost.

Choosing to sacrifice reduces the group's total, and from that standpoint does not seem to make sense. It also does not seem to make sense if the same person chose not to help the other group. So it seems like a question where people could be surprised by what other people answer.

What determines a group? Often, it's people who have the same objective or who think the same way. It can be the 'group of all people who are nice'.

So: is Ariana Grande in a relationship? A search would immediately answer this question, but I'm not doing any research for this post. When I looked up what she said after her concert was bombed to quote it (or maybe when I looked up her 'Seven Rings' tattoo), I saw some search results that said she had stepped back from the public eye around Aug 04 of this year, but I didn't read about that.

Is she sacrificing her personal life, and if so, is it because like with that poll question, there are people in the same group who have less than her? (Even though others gain less than she loses?)


Question from 11 Sep 2026:

"Suppose that jobs that help other people are underpaid because everyone wants to do them, while jobs that make the world worse are overpaid. Would you support encouraging people with the first type of job to work less but paying them a higher wage?"

Then ~3800 characters of words that I thought were worth recording, that I have to scroll through, to find this:

16 Sep 2026
"Was Ariana Grande wrong when she said after her concert was bombed that girls are stupid?"

Some rules are bad. How much thinking do you need to do to determine whether a rule is bad and you can break it?
Less than 5 seconds
1 minute
5 min to 1 hour
1 day or more

"If someone makes a poll based off something I have said, I promise not to say anything about this unless that person talks to me"

That happened in 2017. In a sense, one could say that this is when the vote referenced in the previous two posts took place.

One can look at it logically. This is the, "two philosophical positions are valid, so we assign one to males and one to females". In many cases the position assigned to a gender is not best for a particular situation, but it's the easiest way to ensure that people are aware of both viewpoints. Try to fix problems, or don't? It's a reasonable view that females are harmed more by losing 10 years of their life trying to fix an unfixable problem. The post I made on the deleted 'pro-ED' community on Reddit: intended to get people to share this idea, but when someone suggested that it was fine for females to focus on fashion and celebrities, I pointed to upvotes on posts to suggest that if anyone in the discussion was stupid, it was me, because I was downvoted while others were not.

In a sense, it's a 'rule' that females don't try to fix problems, or at least problems that primarily affect males, like war.

Some other rules: 'Females should be in a relationship with someone who is richer than them.' 'When a male fails at something, other males should blame his personal shortcomings rather than blame the system.'

Point is, sometimes a rule is beneficial for the majority of a group, but harmful for some members. If the females who go to matchmaking or single events are high-income, then they would attract more males to the events if they considered lower-income males as viable partners, but this could seem harmful to the group of "all females, including younger females who don't anticipate ever going to a matchmaking event".

So: if females voted to do nothing, they were following the rules.

Started 17 Sep 2026 at 04:02, finished 05:02, will post this in one week and think of a title for it unless someone talks to me or I die before then.

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