Your Instagram video, "a letter to my younger self". Posted 8 hours ago, but I think Picuki did not show it until now; it still says 126 posts, when your Instagram profile says 127.
"Love isn't something you're supposed to work hard for and earn. Those who will love you the best will do so without needing you to convince them."
I think the effort comes from convincing yourself to love someone else. When people talk about a marriage that has lasted 60 years, this is what they are complimenting. Chinese dramas sometimes refer to "sharing weal and woe", and I had to look up 'weal' to be sure what it meant even though it is a set phrase. Marriage vows in English refer to "in sickness and in health", and it seems they sometimes refer to "in good times and in bad" or "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer", but it does not quite convey the same meaning, assuming I am remembering Chinese dramas correctly and the translations were accurate.
Sharing woe: making someone else unhappy, because you are unhappy. That takes effort, to convince yourself that another person would want this. Maybe there will be a happy period later on, or maybe death will come first.
I don't think what I say about the rest of your message is important, but I might as well. I have never been someone who has given compliments, or liked it when people compliment me. I am, rather, the type of person who avoids giving compliments, or even gives criticism, and then worries about the effect that this will have. When Mei showed a screenshot of her Aion character to me, I suggested that the asymmetry of her hair, with one side ponytail thing, might be ugly. Since she never sent me a photo of herself, I could never say anything about Mei's physical appearance, but I might never have said anything nice about any other characteristic she had, other than implying that she was smart.
It's sort of a stereotype that female friends compliment each other, while male friends put each other down, though. "Believe in yourself," is your message.
I am just extemporizing here, but the whole, "people can't accurately measure their own ability": unskilled people overestimate their ability, while skilled people underestimate their ability. So, the message that "you are better than you think" is a message that should be targeted towards skilled people.
But among skilled people, I do think that very skilled people often don't benefit from having an accurate estimate of their own capabilities. If I had not been the smartest person in my school, I would not have, years later, take this course of action that has wasted 15 years of my life.
Your final advice, to your younger self and your audience: "Criticism can be shared in a respectful and constructive manner. If it's not respectful, it's not important." The ultimate lack of respect for someone is to kill them (although opinions may differ). Not to imply that fighting is the most important thing, but people encounter outcomes that they don't like. The Armero tragedy in 1985, which honestly I confused with the Vargas tragedy in 1999 as the first event that I found from searching just now. Over 23k people dead due to lahars from a volcano that was (cannot immediately find in article) km away. The Wikipedia article has a section, "Preparation and attempted evacuation". It says,
Henry Villegas of INGEOMINAS (Colombian Institute of Mining and Geology) stated that the hazard maps clearly demonstrated that Armero would be affected by lahars, but that the map "met with strong opposition from economic interests".
Would the criticism of the lack of proper measures taken have been better received if this criticism was worded more respectfully?
Those deaths weren't caused by human fighting; it was, as they say, mother nature, who is indifferent to human suffering.
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